Parents who go through breakdowns, separations, or any other challenges have numerous countless thoughts going on in their minds. But the concern that worries them the most is their child’s future. Single parenting can be a lot more demanding and back-breaking.
However, over time, opinions about single parenting have changed remarkably. Children who are raised by single parents can be equally happy and healthy as children raised by both parents. Every parent tries to take care of their child, nurture their growth and look after their surroundings. However, sometimes things can go downhill for the kids when they’re being raised by single parents.
Let’s look at how single parenting negatively impacts children
Being a single parent makes you the only earning member in the family; and, if you’re earning all alone, you need courage and patience. The standard of living can be affected by the whole process of separation and it can make finances difficult to handle alone. However, this situation can be easily tackled if the other parent is willing to contribute and support their partner. Due to financial worries, children, along with their single parents, might have to sacrifice a lot of things.
Despite how much time and arrangements a single parent makes for their children, a feeling of neglect can mostly be felt. The other parent who is not present may give children a feeling that they are not being loved and cared for enough. This may turn the kid into a rebel. They may adopt a behavior of offensive and rude attitude due to the feeling of abandonment. In this case, the parents should deal with the situation with patience. Instead of expecting the child to change, they should create a comfortable surrounding for them, where they are heard and understood.
It becomes the primary responsibility of parents to make their children feel secure with the ongoing situations. Children may lose their focus in learning and concentration, leading to poor performance in the classroom. They might feel a loss of interest in other activities like sports too.
For children, it’s hard to live without a parent. Not being able to live with both the parents and not getting to spend quality time with them can be traumatic. They tend to feel hesitant and are not able to share or express their feelings freely. They might doubt themselves and develop a feeling in which they may compare their friend’s family to theirs. This leads to them living in a constantly stressed state of mind.
Where there’s negative, there’s positive too
The bond between children and parents may even tend to increase and strengthen as they spend time with them separately. Single parents solely fulfill all the needs of their children and this is likely to create a sense of responsibility in the child. Children understand the struggle that the single parent is dealing with in meeting their needs and wants and hence respect and love them even more. Going through such a tough time together makes the bond stronger. Kids who deal with hardships early in life tend to be mentally stronger and self-assured.
Being a single parent needs commitment and prioritizing between many responsibilities. Single parents learn to deal with and juggle all the duties at the same time. Seeing and observing this, children also learn to multi-task and perform them efficiently. Such a situation develops a great sense of maturity in the children much earlier than other kids their age. This helps the child to accept the situation and move on with positivity.
A positive surrounding and environment for single parents as well as for their children is crucial. Single parents usually get support from family and close friends, which motivates them to keep going.
Noticing the parent managing all the tasks so easily and smoothly, the child also learns to value the contribution being made by their parent. Children also learn to take responsibility and help their parents to make things look easier. Stepping into the parent’s shoes makes them understand the hardships their parents have to go through to raise them well. The child ends up being more mature, systematic, and responsible about life.
To be Precise
Single parenting can be demanding and tough, but inspiring too. Parents have to look over the child’s overall growth and development while managing their own emotions. Single parents must take care of themselves first, because if they are calm, only then will they be able to nourish their children in the best way possible. Mounting up all the problems and not sharing them can create a gap between the kids and the parents. So, better confront and discuss the matter with your kids so that they understand you better. Parents are humans too, and “To Err Is Human”