Many methods work and different works for different situations. The key is to become consistent and follow through once you have set up those rules and limits. Try to show respect and be calm.
Remember you are the only role model for your child at home and he is watching you see how you react when you are angry or frustrated or in any such situations. So here are the 4 effective tips to discipline your child that are going to help you in the process for sure.
#Tip 1- Have Clarity of Rules-
Clarity of rules is basically, what is ok and what is not okay in your house, something that you can accept and what is not accepted, what is negotiable and what is not negotiable. So the clear rules in the house could be that nobody will abuse, no one will hit each other. All such rules can be implied to every member of the family (not only the kids)
#Tip 2- Ignore Certain Attention Seeking Behavior-
I know it’s hard to be disengaged, but if it isn’t a serious offense. Just ignore it. Children do many of the things in the name of getting attention from people around them. If your child doesn’t get a rise out of you or make you agitated, she will probably stop doing it.
So here’s we’ll take an example- your child loves to interrupt you when you talk on the phone- The solution- just ignore it, or else you have taught her the tactic works and she will continue to do it again and again. Even better, prepare yourself for attention seeking behavior and try to prevent it. Set the timer and tell her you’ll be able to talk to her once the timer goes off.
#Tip 3- Give Choices-
Kid’s love to be in charge, a child is more likely to cooperate when he feels like he is involved in the decision-making process. Just be sure, the options you give are all the things that you want to do anyway and be careful not to give too many options as well because that can be overwhelming. So when you’re trying to get out the door in the morning, say which do you want to do the first?
Do you want to put on your shoes or put on your coat?
#Tip 4- Use time out
Yes, it really works, if it’s done correctly and consistently. The whole point of timeout is time away from you or the ongoing situation. Your child can be moved to a safer place, a room next to you or maybe you can move away from your child and trust me that can do wonders to keep you and your child calm and in control. The whole point is losing the attention from you is the most effective way to get your message across. Timeout is reserved for more serious offenses that put the child and something else in danger.
So for instance, if your child takes a bite out of her friend’s arm, she goes directly to time out city.
Just remember one thing; you won’t see immediate success with any of these above techniques. Your child will test you 15 times to be sure you really meant what you said or are sure of. They can’t get away with things on your watch. Be patient and be consistent and trust me you will see the results.